Friends, I need your help. And some advice. And probably a reality check and a good smack in the face. Please feel free to offer one or all of the above. Here's my little dilemma.
I found the perfect crib for Baby B's nursery. (Let's not get started on how excited I got over a freakin' crib because the sadness of it all is too much for the formerly fun girl to bear. Life sure does change fast.) I think this crib will work perfectly for a boy or a girl, the color will coordinate well with the dresser and armoire I plan to put in the room and I love the simplicity of the straight rails and arched end panels. Basically, I am smitten with this crib. (Again, sad. Who am I?)
I ordered the crib on Monday and was over the moon. "Buy crib" was officially checked off our very long baby to-do list.
Here's the problem. (And can I just preface this with the following disclaimer? I realize the "problem" I am about to tell you is a total non-problem and could only be considered a problem by someone who clearly has no real problems to deal with. Totally a non-issue in the grand scheme of life. People have real problems and I don't mean to elevate a crib issue to the level of actual problems. Okay, I feel a little better now.) Back to the issue: The crib is back-ordered 17-19 weeks, plus an additional shipping time of 2-3 weeks. If the crib takes the full 22 weeks to arrive, we won't have it until 2 weeks before I'm due.
Do I wait? Or should I find a different crib? I love this crib and I know the baby likely won't be sleeping in it for the first few months anyhow, so I'm inclined to wait. However, I know it will drive me absolutely bonkers to have an incomplete nursery for so long. And what if the baby makes an early appearance and the nursery isn't done?
What would you do? Mom friends, were any of you in a similar situation? Any advice is appreciated. Even if it is "Holy crap woman, quit bitching about stupid stuff."
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Ok, if you love it, get it! I was told mine would take 4 months, and it was in early. Also, the baby won't sleep in there in the beginning (probably), so no rush!
i say wait. you're going to be using the crib for so long you might as well have one you love. b can set it up with your supervision!
You're not going to use it for the first month or so anyways so go ahead and wait for it because it sounds like it matches everything else you want to put in the room!
Wait. I know there is something fun about having a "finished" nursery, but our baby is 2 weeks and still sleeping in the Pack N Play at night (in the newborn napper) and I am nowhere ready to move him to the crib at night. During the day he sleeps wherever he will (on the bed while I email, in his chair, etc).
Point being - I wouldn't have missed not having a crib yet.
As a non-mom, I'm not sure my advice counts, but if you love it that much and haven't found anything comparable, just wait. You have time.
Firstly that is a GORGEOUS CRIB! But I'm gonna go against the grain here and say keep looking. Now if you can't find anything else that makes your heart swoon like this one than by all means go with the wait, BUT I feel like this is a popular style for cribs and you might be able to find one similar that you won't have to wait so long on. You are totally right that it's be pratical to not have it when the baby gets here bc they can sleep in pack'n'play or bassinet BUT that nesting feeling is pretty intense and I know how bad I wanted to have everything done before the baby got here (regardless of how rational or irrational I was being at the time). For me (and I can only speak for myself) part of the fun of the nesting and being pregnant is getting to sit in the room before hand, look at the crib with the bedding on it, sit in the glider and day dream and imagine what it'll be like for a little baby to be in there :)
Love the crib. It's VERY similar to the one I chose for our nursery (except I went with espresso for color instead of white). Ours is the Munire Morgan safeside crib (http://www.munirefurniture.com/Safeside_03.htm). I ordered it about a month ago, and it's already here. So, you might be able to find something very similar if you're not willing to wait! The one you chose is beautiful though, and I know how hard it is to let something go once your heart is set on it. Good luck!
I love the crib but I would move on. I would hate not having the nursery done. After you get the crib in the room you can start playing with bedding :) Can you find something similar? Are there any out there??
First, I love the crib. It's exactly what I imagine for my future nurseries. Now, as a person with zero experience in pregnancy, I say wait. As everyone else said, the baby won't be in for a little while at first. If you love it that much, I say go for it!
I have to agree with Ryan K here. Personally, I would HATE not having the nursery done. And who says you will be up to setting up a crib 2 weeks before your due date? And that's if you don't say, go early or end up on bed rest (and I of course am NOT wishing this on you - but have that same fear for myself!!)
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Wait! If you don't, and you pick something else, you will be sad for the 2+ years that baby will sleep in there. Everyone is right, baby won't sleep in there for the first couple of weeks anyway and won't know that mommy didn't have the nursery 'done' until shortly before the arrival. ;)
You're cracking me up! I say wait. You're going to be living with it a lot longer than you'll be living without it, so it will be worth the wait. It's hard to find the perfect one, so don't toss it when you do find it. You'll find other things to worry about while you wait on the UPS man!
My vote is to wait! It actually made me sad to have our nursery done, bedding in place, and no baby for months and months. I would just sit in an empty room and miss my unborn baby... sounds weird I know. This will be a nice little something to look forward to just before baby is born! Everything else can be ready in the meantime and you can still check "order the crib" off your list.
I would wait for it! My son was 4 weeks early and I didn't have a thing! He slept in a bassinet for 3 months and then i moved back down to Orlando he slept in a pack-n-play that had a bassinet for another 2 months! We didn't end up buying our crib until we moved into our new house.
Ahh, I can't imagine how frustrating that must be. Knowing me, I would probably try to find something else just because it would make me nutty to not have the nursery finished. You're right though, you won't use it for a few months anyway. Decisions, decisions!!!
It would make crazy having to wait that long! But, if you love it, get it...maybe it will get there early!
When do you find out what you're having?? So fun!!
Wait for it! Carsyns nursery was not complete until she was about 3 months old and it's EXACTLY the way I wanted it.
Love the crib btw and I think white cribs are equally cute in boys and girls nurseries. I can't wait to find out what you're having!
i think katie hit the nail on the head. AND after what you said about not being able to back out after tomorrow, i might go ahead and keep looking. if it's been back-ordered once, i wouldn't trust it not to be pushed back again. good luck, friend!!
Holy crap woman, quit bitching about stupid stuff.
Just kidding!
The cot (as we say in Australia) is beautiful. Get it. If you were going to find anything else as nice you would have found it already. It will be there in time. I am sure of it.
This my friend, is what twitter calls a #"white girl problem" HA but anyways I have to go against the flow and say move on! My SIL had a back ordered crib that went on forever and it didn't get here till after the babe, and sometimes babes come early. I am of the mindset that for personal peace the nursery must be complete in the 2nd trimester so you can really relax in the 3rd when you are feeling all tired and big.
BUT everyone is right when they say babes don't sleep in the crib in the beginning. Peebles slept in his stroller bassinet so I could just roll him around the house. HA
I love the crib. I would probably want everything set, washed sheets, etc beforehand on the bed. One of my best friends parents were so young (and poor) when they got married that they put my friend in a dresser drawer as her "crib". Her parents are the most successful people I know now and her 'in the drawer' story was told at her wedding. You probably have the Pack-n-play already but you could always put the child in a drawer if the pretty crib doesn't show up on time. (totally kidding) ;)
hahah this post cracked me up! i would say wait, but my lack of baby experience probably makes my opinion worthless! (if its like anything else in life though, getting the thing you reaaaaalllly want is worth it!)
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